“Worrying will never change the outcome.”
“Why worry? If you’ve done the very best you can, worrying won’t make it any better.” –Walt Disney
If you know tomorrow will never come, what would you do? Do you think anyone knows if tomorrow will actually come?
Stephen Hawking, known for Hawking radiation, was diagnosed not to live beyond 2 years in 1963 but was able to live 55 years more, even doctors can’t tell the exact years although evidence and proofs based on medical reports were clearly stating otherwise.
Nobody expected 9/11, or the Tsunami that killed thousands back in 2004, or any other calamities and natural occurrences that are not in our control, these instances are on a global scale.
The point is if you worry about these things, would your worries make any difference?
Now think about your situation right now, you have debts, heartaches, exam tomorrow, interview, trust issues. Who brought this to yourself? Is it your parents? Your siblings? Your spouse? Friends? Maybe it’s me. Or could it be you? Or maybe you worry about things you can’t do anything about?
If I can be a genie right now and I can spare you one wish, what would that be? To let those worries go, is it? Or maybe a solution to one of your many challenges will also do, am I right? That would be awesome!
And then as we move forward in life and encounter another adversity, we’d rather wish there’s another genie to solve our other worries, right?
Now, what if there is an actual genie in real life?
What if the genie I’m referring to is YOU?
Yes, you! You are your own genie.
We just find it easier to worry than eliminate what’s causing our worries. We’d rather sit on one side, blame anyone or anything we can blame and think about our problems every single moment not realizing that in order for it to go away, all we have to do is make that wish come true! Stop worrying and focus on finding the solutions.
But Why Can’t We Just Couldn’t Stop Worrying?
Worrying has something to do with focus and priorities and is directly related to fear. You fear the outcomes and you become helpless because your focus was diverted to your fear rather than what you should be doing to solve the issue at hand.
If you change your focus and priorities, you’ll get rid of worries.
So let me be your genie right now and give you some treat, some tips on how to get rid of your worries.
How To Stop Worrying?
1. Let your worry out.
Have someone to talk to or if not, write about it.
Having someone you can talk about your worries can ease up the burden and can help you think straight.
If you have no one to talk to, make it a habit to have a pen and a note in order to write down and identify what’s causing your worries. It’s the same case about the importance of knowing what makes you unhappy.
2. Remember this, most of the things you worry about never actually happened.
Winston Churchill: “When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
As it was already mentioned, worries boil from fear of the outcome which is a future event. Again, how sure are we that future will come or whether things we worry about will happen? If you stop worrying about the outcomes, most of what causes you to worry will go.
3. Find out what you fear about.
If you can’t let go thinking about the outcome, the best you can do is face it. Ask this to yourself: Realistically, what are the worst things that could actually happen? Once you are able to answer this, find ways on what you can do in order for unlikely things to happen.
If you can do something about it, the best you can do is to do your best! Then man up and face it.
4. Separate the solvable from unsolvable issues.
Is there anything you can do to let these worries go or is it something that’s out of your control?
Some would say that thinking about something over and over again will make you come up with a solution that you thought isn’t there before.
Then here’s the thing, these things are part of the solvable issues. Unsolvable worries are things that rely solely on other people’s decision or natural circumstances. That’s why it’s very important that you distinguish the two carefully and if you can do anything about the solution at hand, formulate a plan and just do it.
Is it something not in your control? Then let it go. What? Just like that?
Yes, just like that. Come to think of it, if you have no control over the issue at hand, how will you be able to solve it? What can you do if you can’t do anything about something? Nothing! Absolutely nothing! So why dread about it?
5. Focus on the solution.
Never let your mind be drifted away from solving the problem. There are lots of noises around, as well as things that need your attention. Do not waste your time dwelling on a problem. As you become accustomed to smashing all obstacles that are coming your way, life will start to feel like an adventure as it is.
6. Do not assume what’s on other people’s mind.
The best thing to know what’s on other people’s mind is to ask. Communication is key. As you do this, you will less likely to worry about the other person because you know that openness prevents unnecessary conflicts and negativity.
7. Remember this; you have worries, so as others.
Most of the time, we always assume that people are thinking about us and are doing things directly related to us. This is not the actual case. We all have our own conflicts, worries, and challenges.
Help yourself by not thinking what they’re thinking and be considerate of others by being kind. Nothing they do is about you. It’s about them or a reflection of themselves. Same goes for you.
8. Work out or meditate.
Whatever works best for you.
Not only does working out gives you a stronger and healthier body, it also releases stress and keeps your mind busy, releasing tension and worries and clearing your mind. The same goes for meditation.
9. Spend fewer hours on social media.
More time spent in social media seeing how people do in their own lives can lead to the comparison of your own that can cause anxiety and emphasize more of the worries you have at the back of your mind.
10. Live in the moment.
All we have is NOW. Past is a memory and future is just imaginations. Do what you have to do now and deal whatever you have at hand. One action leads to another. Don’t waste today by worrying what will happen tomorrow or you’ll run out of time enjoying the present moment.
11. Pursue something.
The best way to keep your mind out of worries is to pursue something or set a goal. You might want to achieve more in your life but you aren’t taking the time to focus because of so many reasons you keep telling to yourself.
There might be health or financial goals but you thought you don’t have enough time. Learn how to use your 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
As you focus on pursuing something, you will have the habit of eliminating all issues or challenges that are coming your way, hence avoiding worries because your priority is in the pursuit of your goals.
Life isn’t as smooth as we dream it to be, but that’s what makes it more fun. If life is perfect, it’s kind of going to be boring, isn’t it? And the satisfaction of overcoming challenges adds confidence to your being.
So go ahead and find out what you can do to keep yourself busy.
I believe that the best way to release yourself from worries is to let go of the things you cannot change and just do what you have to do. There are higher powers above us if we let faith come into action.
Let it go. There is only so much we can do. It doesn’t mean we’re giving up. It only means we keep our trust in ourselves, in the best that we can do, and in that higher power that guided us since the beginning.
Don’t take life so seriously that you forget having fun. If you look outside of your zone, you will realize we are these tiny organisms that make up a vast universe. Continue your journey pursuing a goal and smashing anything that comes your way!
Have fun, live in the moment, face your worries, focus on the solution, move on, and enjoy life!
Now, will you rub yourself a little, unleash the Genie in you and make your dreams come true?
I’d be happy to know your thoughts in the comment section below.
All the best,
King Kong’s Girl
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