Famous Person’s Top 10 Tips For Speaking Up

Top 10 Tips For Speaking Up

Are you afraid of speaking up?

There was a time in my life when I’ve been to a group of people who made me feel like I was creating disagreements just because I was speaking up for what I thought was right, and I almost believed I really was the problem.

People are being used to keeping their silent, complain behind doors, get divided silently, and burst in anger when their limit is reached. I understand people are different.

However, if there’s someone in a group that can speak up to influence others to speak up, misunderstanding and hidden resentment can be avoided.

But this is not always the case. Often times, we’d rather choose to let go and leave in order to protect the relationship and our inner peace and find a place where we can just be ourselves voicing out our opinion, just as I did.

Along the way, I found people who made me realize that speaking up is far from causing disorder unless you made it sound like one, people who will blatantly tell you what you did wrong in order for you to know how to improve the relationships moving forward, and expects you to do the same.

In fact, they’ve made me realized that speaking up is the best way to avoid misunderstandings if communicated properly.

Below are my top 10 tips for speaking up from famous persons that can encourage you more to speak what’s on your mind:

 

Tips for Speaking Up from Famous Persons

1. “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

–Martin Luther King, Jr., 1st President of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference

 

2. “You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”

– Oprah Winfrey, Most influential woman in the world

 

3. “Women speaking up for themselves and for those around them is the strongest force we have to change the world.”

–Melinda Gates, co-founder of the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation with the primary goal of reducing extreme poverty and expand educational opportunities and access to information technology

 

4. “I always believe you have to speak up.”

–Letitia Baldrige, White House Social Secretary appointed by Jacqueline Kennedy

 

5. “For every time we regret keeping still, there are about ten times we regret speaking up.”

–James Alexander Thom, author and contributor to The Saturday Evening Post

 

6. “Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind – even if your voice shakes.”

– Maggie Kuhn, Elder Rights activist

 

7. “Why should we be silent? Why don’t we speak up for our rights? Why don’t we tell the world what is happening?”

–Malala Yousafzai, her advocacy grown into an international movement protecting women’s right to education

 

8. “If you can speak, you can influence. If you can influence you can change lives.”

–Rob Brown, spokesman of the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society’s Light the Night Walk

 

9. “Your silence will not protect you.”

–Audre Lorde, writer, feminist, and civil rights activist

 

10. “Let others know when they have hurt or angered you. By not speaking up when someone insults or mistreats you, you are inadvertently giving permission for him or her to continue to treat you in the same way in the future.”

–Beverly Engel, internationally recognized expert in emotional abuse

 

But don’t just speak up. Do it responsibly, below are some important things to remember.

 

Things To Remember When Speaking Up

1. Be respectful. We all have different perspectives.

2. Do not raise your voice; let your argument raise your point.

3. Listen, you can be wrong. We heard it before, the biggest communication problem is that we do not listen to understand, we listen to reply.

4. Don’t take things personally. What others say or do is a reflection of their own beliefs and perspectives; it has nothing to do with you.

5. Choose your battle. Speaking up doesn’t mean responding to every dog that barks. Know what matters to you and speak up to protect it.

6. Choose the right platform. Whether formal or informal, it depends on the topic of what needs to be voiced out. The main factor here is that you don’t let your thoughts be drowned in your sea of thoughts, otherwise, let yourself be heard.

Aside from saying what I mean in real time situations, I have also found another way of expressing myself by blogging. Through blogging, I’m able to share my thoughts, information, ideas, and learn through people who share their thoughts as well.

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Final Thoughts

Each of us has a different persona. I told this once to my brother about one of his past relationships: You may both love each other, but you’re not compatible together unless one of you will compromise. Although this fits as a relationship advice, it can also apply when dealing with other people.

Most of the time, the fear of criticism is what hinders us in saying the things we want. So, whether leaving or not is the right thing to do, always remember that you deserve to be heard. Never believe anyone suppressing your opinions because of fear.

The key to having a positive and peaceful life is knowing first who you are, the things you like and dislike, the things you can compromise, and then be with people who force you to become better. We can choose our friends but not family. In both situations, we can choose whom to spend most of our time with.

Exercise your power to speak; you have so much to share.

Speak up, because by speaking up something you thought was right and you end up wrong, you will know and learn. By speaking up something you thought was right and you end up right – others will learn and you may cause a change not only within your circumstance but also on a wider scale.

Source: Wikipedia

I’d be happy to know your thoughts in the comment section below.

 

All the best,
King Kong’s Girl

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  1. Love this post. We could not even imagine that sometimes our silent will create lots of problem which we don’t even think of. Speaking is one of the best way to avoid misunderstanding. Thanks for sharing the Tips and Things to remember, I will try to implement these thoughts in my life as well. I believe they have power to change life..

  2. Hi there,

    That was an Interesting post. I loved tip #2, I love Oprah, she is great.

    These are great tips, very encouraging. And speaking up is the best thing one can do to get his message across.

    Thanks

  3. I agree that communicating respectfully to each other is the best thing. I personally enjoy another persons perspective and I’m quite blunt myself so I don’t have a problem with people voicing their opinions even if they’re different than mine as long as they follow those rules you listed. Great article, more people should be this way.

    1. Thank you Lorri, I’m glad you liked it. I’m blunt as well. Although we can’t change the fact that there really are people who cannot or do not know how to express themselves, I totally believe that it can be changed if they’re willing.

  4. Liked the article as I do think many people struggle not only with having the courage to speak up at times but also when they do, they find it hard to convey their thoughts in the right way.

    1. Hmm, that’s true. Thank you for sharing Josh. Having a hard time conveying what we mean sometimes also hinder us from speaking up or getting misunderstood. Either way, who knows someone may be able to listen and understand. Furthermore, as we progress in the practice of speaking up, we may be able to learn how to do it more effectively.

  5. Hey, KK Girl!

    I really enjoyed the quotes. Very nice.

    But while I do agree that speaking up is very important, I do feel that people are extremely reluctant to speak up at their workplace. Mostly because people feel economically dependent on their bosses. So, they don’t want to anger them or essentially give them a reason to fire them. So, they rather don’t speak up.
    In the long run, however, I feel that, if they don’t have the option to speak up, not only do they become very submissive at the workplace, but it also happens in life.

    Therefore, with your permission, KK Girl, I would like to leave a message to these kinds of people. So, here me out.
    If you ever find yourself reluctant to speak up, because you worry that you might get fired, think of it this way. If you get fired, then it’s for the better. Because the work atmosphere in such a place probably isn’t the best to say the least.
    Bosses, who do not encourage their employers to speak up or take revenge on people, who do, are prone to fail the business.

    Therefore, although it may seem that that is the safest option (to not speak up), it is essentially the opposite. In such a workplace I can promise you that there is no place for growth for you as a human being and as a professional. Because your boss will always be the one, who is right, because he is the boss and not because he is actually right.
    Ultimately, such a workplace will make you not only miserable at your work, but also in life.

    You will end up going to work with a grudge, you will end up hating the work and not wanting to get out of the bed in the morning. And yes, leaving a job can be intimidating because for a lot of people that is the only source of income. However, there are amazing leaders out their that lead amazing businesses and who value their employees and everything that they are.
    Paul John DeJoria and Issac Lidsky are only some of many Greats that are out there.

    In such a job you will thrive and be able and be willing to give your all. Don’t go to a job just to make money.
    Go to a job to make a difference! 🙂

    Cheers! And Have A Great One!

    1. Hi Matiss, I definitely agree with you. I once have been in a workplace where employees have fears in voicing out what they want to say and just say yes. You’re right, the fear of losing their job is the main factor that influences why people just couldn’t speak up. As always, it starts within, what we allow will always continue. It’s just a matter of priorities. I appreciate you sharing your thought. You too, enjoy your day!

  6. Hi Jenni, Really loved this post. It is so true, better to speak out than to bottle things up and then explode. I found counting to 10 before I spoke, when I was feeling angry, really helped. (Not out loud of course, but that might have worked too). By the time you have got to 10 you feel much calmer.
    All the best,

    1. Same here Jill. When I’m feeling emotional, I let myself have a minute or two to calm down as well as counting to 10 or backwards which is really helpful. All the best to you too. Thanks for dropping by.

  7. I really enjoyed reading this post. I am naturally a quiet person, and that can be played on by others. I really think your ideas are good. I like the thought of being confident and speaking out, but it is very difficult when you are a shy person like me. But you have given me some food for thought. Thank you.

    1. Hi Ruth, I’m glad I could do that through this post. I once was a shy person as well. Maybe the desire to pursue goals and dreams and getting addicted to ticking my to-do-list developed my habit of just doing what I need to do to the point of changing myself to a person who speaks up to get what I want, or at least trying, just as Oprah said. You can overcome it by constant practice as well. There’s nothing impossible if we thought so too. May you find that courage moving forward. Good luck!

  8. Thank you for this inspirational and informative post. It is timely for me as just yesterday I was communicating with my daughter and I could’ve used these tips. “Do not raise your voice” 🙁 I find myself turning up the volume when the point I am trying to make is not being heard. It makes for a difficult recovery in the conversation when I do that. I will have to do some work to be better in this department. Thank you again, good reminder!

    1. Hi Kathleen, thank you for sharing your experience. It may help you if you can practice calming down. I have written an article about it, you might want to take a look it might help you find ideas on how to not react while emotions are high. I’m glad I can help in any way. Good luck and enjoy your day!

  9. Hi Jenni, This is a lovely post with a lot of good advice. There are certain times when it is good to speak up for yourself or for what you belief in. The most important thing for me is to really listen to what is being said and not to try to think of what I am going to say until I have listened and understood what the person is telling me. It is so easy to jump to conclusions. Also one doesn’t know where the other person is coming from if you don’t listen carefully.

    1. I couldn’t agree more, Jill. We’re often get carried away by emotions and our default setting is to defend ourselves. So when we speak, most of the time, we speak to reply instead of taking the point of view first of the other person. Appreciate this comment.

  10. Great advice. Thanks for taking the time to get the word out that it is OK to speak up. We just have to remember to do the right thing with the right attitude. That part is something easily forgotten. Thank you for reminding us.
    I wish you all the best.

    1. That’s true Wendi, the reason is because we get carried away by our emotions and make the mistake of defending ourselves instead of taking the time to understand other people’s point of view. Appreciate your comment.

  11. Great advise idk but for some reason I feel that I came across your post for a reason. Whatever the reason may be I would like to say thank you and keep up the good job. Your words are meaningful and considerate towards how we she learn how to embrace it, learn, adapt, and make the necessary changes we need to become the person we should be.

    1. Thank you for the kind words Roberto. I only wish to share my thoughts that I believe could resonate other’s experiences and spread positivity. I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts as well. Have a great day everyday!

  12. Interesting selection of people that you chose to quote. I think the only one that has my utmost respect is the first one, Martin Luther King. The others have agendas that I don’t agree with.

    1. No problem Melinda. I believe each one of us down to our doctor has agendas and each one of us has the right to agree or disagree. What makes this world a nice place to live in is that we care to respect each other’s opinion so long as it doesn’t prevent us from exercising ours. Having something to believe in is one character of a strong and courageous person, I can see that you know exactly what you believe in considering you don’t agree with these people. There are others who have no idea where they stand.

      I have utmost respect as well with Martin Luther King, Jr. Thank you for dropping by and expressing your thoughts. Enjoy your day!

  13. Hi and this will be a great pass-along to my daughter. She often speaks her mind, without any thought process involved. I think you have a lot of good advice for male and female, it is a good thing to educate and to be educated. How else are we to grow? Dr. King was correct (and still is ): never lose your voice!
    Sanders

    1. Thank you, Sanders, you must be really proud of your daughter for being able to express herself. Just a little reminder of how to also know how to listen to others in order to have a harmonious relationship, then everything will be fine. I agree with you, we shouldn’t stop learning, and likewise, sharing what we learn.

  14. Truly inspirational words of wisdom, in the busy world we live in life is to short to be silenced by another. Great article and a good read, thank you

    1. I’m glad you found it inspirational, Sylus. I agree with you. So long as we never lose our cool and accept other people’s point of view, there’s nothing wrong speaking up for our own truth.

  15. Interesting post. It’s really important to find our own way to voice our opinions. Personally, have found that sometimes you’ve got to be willing to be vulnerable and understand that we all have a unique view and perspective in life that is worth sharing!

    1. That’s true Uraraa, as I’ve said in the post, we all have something to share, let go of the fear of being criticized. After all, we really cannot please anyone. Each one of us has something to learn from every person we meet. Thank you for your comment.

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