I received an unusual call today.
It’s from my mama.
Unusual since we don’t usually talk by phone. Not anymore. We started communicating through messages and chats, developed along all other quick and easy way of doing things.
I then asked her if there’s anything special today.
My mother, who never changed the way she looked at her children even now that we’re already grown men and woman, more than 4,000 miles away, responded that she only wanted to hear our voices.
It touched my heart.
I realized, we, as children who keep pursuing both personal development and material possessions, happen to forget, that our parents are also getting older one day at a time.
We often mistake our mama calling us to either bother or interfere in our everyday decision-making and the way we run our lives, however, this is not always the case.
Often, we forget to take good care of them because we got used to the idea that they are the ones taking care of us, that up until this moment, they can carry on with their lives and we can start carrying on with ours, however, this is not always the case.
Most of the times, they just simply miss their role as parents. But since they’re already getting older, they also long to be taken care of.
It’s not that we don’t care nor choose to forget, isn’t it? It’s just that, it’s not on our top priority anymore.
I understand that some culture emphasizes individualism and independence where parents end up moving to retirement communities, but that doesn’t include forgetting them, isn’t it? Or is it?
On the other hand, there are more cultures that value and still take good care of their parents more when they get older.
My siblings and I, for instance, grew up in an environment where family values are of importance as any other material pursuit in life. And although we argue with each other and do not interfere in our private lives, the bond as siblings is strong, and our mother’s opinion, although somehow, sometime, very old-fashioned and outdated, is always given importance, so as our father’s.
Hearing my mom asking for a minute or two just to hear our voices made me realized that more than the material things that we can provide our parents, there are much more valuable gifts that we can give especially now that they are getting older.
Below are some of them.
Valuable Gifts Mom Will Definitely Appreciate
1. An understanding between siblings
As you mature in life, the more you seek for peace and serenity, so as your parents. Although some cannot avoid rivalry or misunderstanding between siblings, it greatly affects your mother. A gift of understanding and genuine care for one another will secure your mother’s worry about your well-being.
2. Their children becoming responsible individuals
Your mother usually always worries about how you’re doing, isn’t it? A study shows on parenting conducted by Pew Research Center that among 12 values that kids need to learn, becoming responsible individuals tops the list.
3. Their children still seeking their advice.
Moms miss their roles as moms. Seeking for their advice and involving them in your decision-making from time to time give her ultimate joy.
4. Remembering them
Your mom would love to see you do what you’ve always dreamed of doing. But to share with her your accomplishments and remembering her personally will not take much of your time. It will boost her happiness that can make her less stressful, thus, healthier.
5. Their children being kind and respectful individuals.
Moms feel proud whenever somebody regards their children positively.
6. Their children becoming better parents.
Your parents aren’t perfect, no one is. But you as a child isn’t, either. Whatever their shortcomings are, trust me they know that. And they realize that more as their children grow older.
Seeing you become a responsible parent relieves your mom from blaming herself knowing she’s the one who raised you up. So whatever you think your mother or father wasn’t able to provide, treat that as a lesson you can use when you become one.
Although a child’s perspectives and traits are responsibilities of his parents, blaming will not get us anywhere. I do believe that it’s a personal responsibility to get over what doesn’t help you move forward in life and become a better person one day at a time.
So did a simple I Love You suffice my Mom? Yes, it did.
It had been enough for her.
However, deep inside her, she would wish we were still those young little ones who needed her. Those young little ones who are afraid to let go and would rather always have her on sight.
But that would never be the case anymore.
The more we grow older, the more we’re able to discover things and explore, the more we’ll have less time to spend with them, if not none at all.
Hence, a day in a year we get to celebrate for her is actually an opportunity for us to express how much we appreciate her. Because whether we accept it or not, our mothers are the most taken for granted person in our lives, the same person we all know would never turn back against us.
So in preparation for this coming mother’s day, come to think of it, if you can give time to others, why not to your mother?
To all moms out there, happy mother’s day!
I’d be happy to know your thoughts in the comment section below.
All the best,
King Kong’s Girl